Although there are some people who have become a little bit savvy in filing for divorce, there are still many people who find the filing of divorces paper very confusing and stressful. That is, of course, natural and very understandable. Going through that experience can take a big toll of emotional trauma and confusions. That is not even including yet the effects it will cause to your children. That is why that a third legal party is necessary to act as council and mediator for both parties. There are some important things you can do for yourself though like preparing beforehand your personal and business papers that will be needed for the court.