We all agree it is compassionate to avoid hurting people’s feelings whenever possible. The ‘whenever possible’ clause creates some confusion when ending a relationship, however. This is an inherently painful time for one or both parties. Many tactics have been used, when breaking up with someone, to attempt sidestepping this inevitable truth. They all fail. Worse yet, avoidance of the plain, honest truth causes more misery then is necessary in these situations. Therefore, take on board these relationship tests - avoid being evasive or vague. Be direct while taking responsibility for what you want – it’s the best course of action in the long term.